The “big boys” (7 & 9) were telling me about the way the little boy (4.5) pitches a fit at times when he doesn’t get what he wants. They are annoyed. It was a complaint of “us against him”. My thoughts went to the little man in the back seat; I was driving them from their house to mine. Granny seized the teaching moment, “Boys, your brother is little, and often probably feels his size. When he has three big brothers (the 11 year old was coming later with his mom) who dominate him and boss him around, he’s going to use whatever he’s got to get a word in edgewise or feel seen. Put yourself in his shoes. Think if you were him . . .”
I continued my granny-sermon, “Jesus wants you to practice loving one another. You should try to outdo one another in being sweet, and in giving things instead of trying to get your own way. This requires a lot of practice.”
I’m still practicing letting go of my will. And I’m a granny! Grampa wants me to stop what I’m doing and go outside to help him. I don’t want to. I want to stay in my warm cozy house. But I remember I need to practice doing for others what I’d like them to do for me. So I go!
Although he was a Son, he learned obedience through what he suffered. Hebrews 5:8
I wondered if this meant there was a 50/50 chance that He would accomplish what He was sent to do? Since we know that His journey on our planet, in our skin, proved no sin, did that mean half of his life . . . his days . . . his moments were suffering moments?
Did He, like me, ache inside when people didn’t believe He was who He was?
Did He fight frustration that his people were so slow to learn?
Did He bite back lifeless words when He was confronted and harassed?
Did He fight back tears at night after people lunged toward Him with venomous accusations?
Did He want to rest when He was needed the most, but instead fought the urge to grumble and complain?
Did He wrestle with wanting to quit?
While I can’t know the answers to those questions; my friendship with Him just grew, exponentially.
I’m listening to a recent sermon series through the book of 1 Peter on how to be the church in a secular age. My understanding expanded when I heard:
"With the choice to sin or to suffer, it is better to suffer." ~Brian Dainsberg ( Alien, Part 5 )
Pastor Brian quotes from a sermon series on Hebrews 11 by Puritan, Thomas Mansen (from the 1600’s). Mr Mansen gives sixteen reasons that the greatest suffering is better than the smallest sin. The pastor quotes three.
"In suffering the offense is done to us but in sinning, the offense is done to God. And what are we to God? It is nothing to offend and weary men, but to offend and weary God, that is the highest aggravation." (Isaiah 7:13)
"All injuries receive a value from the person against whom they are committed. Sin is an injury against God and affliction is only an infringement of our outward happiness."
"By sufferings and afflictions we lose the favor of men; by sin we lose the favor of God and that is a sad purchase—to buy the favor of men with the offense of God."
When you are “Mary” in this war, when you say yes to carry and bear the Spirit and Word of Jesus . . . many will gossip about you and complain against you . . . and betray you and steal from you . . . and reject you and lie to you . . . they will insult you and mischaracterize you and seek to manipulate you . . . because they only see what they want and they fear not getting it—then you have a cross.
A choice to suffer with Jesus . . . or not.
Then Jesus told his disciples, “If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross and follow me. Matthew 16:24
The visual is of a beaten-bloody Man, shaky arms wrapped around the beam, willingly dragging its weight all the way to deepest pain. Our Savior embraced the cost of resisting sin. He chose suffering.
He learned obedience, that which is said to be evidence of our love for God. (John 14:15)
Jesus loved God most. More than He loved His life on earth, more than He loved comfort, more than He loved safety, more than He loved anything we are tempted to love. He even gave his mother to His friend, severing all earthly ties.
And you and I know what happened. It all turned to glory. And our suffering also will turn to glory. This call to endure suffering when it comes, is a call to glory. (Romans 8:18-21)
Are you experiencing suffering? Remember Jesus went before you. Having difficulty forgiving or being kind or willing? Jesus is with you to help you.
Do you feel alone in your suffering? Remember Jesus is with you in it; He promises to get you through and reveal His glory in you.
Click over to Hebrews 12:1-3 and find strength and consolation for suffering. Grab and send the verses to someone who is also struggling.