When I married my husband, everything that was his became mine. Whether it was good or bad.
I instantly became a recipient of his skill and ability to service our vehicles.
I became a beneficiary of his carpentry skills.
We’ve done many remodeling projects together.
Everything he set out to do became mine too.
When he built his business, I was building it too.
When he made money, it was mine too.
When he lost money, I lost too.
When his deal went south, I went with him.
When he brings money home, I . . . spend it.
But for the record, he spends too. 🙂
The reverse is also true. He has been a recipient of my ‘stuff’.
When he builds, I design and paint. When he rototills, I plant. When he takes apart my windows, I clean them . . . [this is a current project that is rather humorous between us; he keeps taking apart and bringing windows to me, and after I get done cleaning them, he brings me more!]
Over the course of these 32 years, I’ve jested that from the time we were married, he knocked me over the head and has been dragging me by the hair ever since. Because he is a risk-taker and I never used to be. Where he would run, I would dig in my heels. When he wanted to move, I’d say, “Let’s stay.”
But being married to him has helped this cautious one to see things more clearly. I’ve see that risks are worth taking and that you survive, even thrive from the fallout from any failure you encounter.
And we’ve seen that my cautious nature has a very good balancing value to his risk-taking nature.
I’ve been on wild adventures because of him. Adventures that I fear I’d never have experienced without being being wed to Mr. adventurous spirit. I’ve become extremely fond of adventure.
It took awhile for both of us to see the value of his risk-taking and my caution. The Lord has used D’s dominant nature to refine my compliant nature. I’ve sturdied up . . . and he has softened a bit.
Marriage is surely made in heaven, but not the way we might wish.
It’s true that the reason God created marriage is to display His relationship to His Bride, the Church. He is the Husband and we are the Bride. You can read about it in Ephesians 5:22-33
So, here’s some really good news. When we obtain salvation through our faith in Jesus, then we are in covenant with Jesus. Similar to my marriage, except for one signifiant detail. One side of the equation is Divine Perfection.
And everything we inherit as His Bride is GOOD! Good. Good. Good. Isn’t that good news?!
Well, if you are like me, it doesn’t come easy, seeing the good, good, good. And as it goes in marriage, it takes some time to really get to know each other and trust the whole covenant thing.
For far too long in my relationship with Jesus, I thought so much more depended on me. I strained and struggled to obtain what I thought it was to be a “good Christian” [compliant nature, remember?] Until I fell flat on my face in my weakness, unable to pick myself up or deliver myself.
The Lord forced me to rely on Him. Psalm 40:2
And it was the best thing that ever happened to me. To learn to trust. To learn of His unfailing love. To learn of His power to save. To be set free from slavery to the idol of self-sufficiency.
To truly find His REST. Isaiah 30:15
Do you trust Him?
Do you believe the good, good, good of your Savior?
I’ll be talking more about it in the coming days:
The goodness of Jesus.