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  1. Oh, the comparison pit. We’ve all been there, and even after we’ve made our way out, we’re easily lured back. There’s always someone younger, prettier, healthier, thinner, richer…and the list goes on and on. All the while, we’re wasting time in self-pity, not using the gifts we’ve been given because we’re focused on the gifts of others. So happy to be walking on this journey with you, Kathy.

    • Kathy Schwanke

      Yes Patricia, thank you. Exactly that.

      I think I am out to prove that the temptation is always lurking around every corner. Now that I am middle-life I notice different challenges than earlier in life. In experiencing the temptation and feeling the feelings doesn’t mean we have caved to self-pity, but that we need to make an adjustment in the moment. It is as if the feeling is an indicator to take the thoughts captive and think God-truths instead of being me-centered. I’ve just seen too many people discouraged about the battle and I want to encourage them that there is no guilt in temptation, and we can walk out of it in an instant by the power at work within us. I also think women hold themselves back from what God has for them because the feelings are uncomfortable and they believe they are the only ones feeling them, when in fact we all do to some degree.

      Glad you popped over! 🙂

  2. wow Kathy, that’s a winner. God bless you, I love how you express yourself. I say to myself, is that my daughter, where did she get the talent? then I have the answer,
    God given gift. Love you Mom

  3. Yes friend. The default of our hearts is always idolatry, always the need to fill and fulfill and be told we are worth every bit of what we long for. Acceptance, knowing we are preapproved before we ever do a thing. Knowing He loves us so. Loved this glimpse into your struggle, and really all of our struggle. And the everyday homeschool mom with EVERY page done? I’m not her either.

    • Kathy Schwanke

      Alia,
      I’m so excited you came over to my house today! Too bad cyber tea isn’t as fun as face-to-face 🙂

      Sometimes God puts perfecter people (I only home-schooled my kids in elementary for a reason-lol) in the path of perfectionists for the necessary testing to LOVINGLY refine *ahem* us. 🙂

      Truly, my friend’s family are stellar performers living under grace (not proud). I’m so happy to have them in my life and glad that the feelings I had never indicated I was failing, just that I had to continue to adjust my thinking…and still need to adjust my thinking daily.

      Glad we walk the road together sister! 🙂

    • Kathy Schwanke

      Yeah Kristin, nasty but powerless if we don’t cave to it, right? Overwhelming victory is ours in Jesus! I intend to make the case that the feelings are never going to leave us and having them is not a sin. I think so many are afraid to move forward because of the feelings. We need to press on despite them, right? In confidence that the blood of Jesus cleanses us and the love of Jesus fills us.

      Nice to meet you here! 🙂

    • Kathy Schwanke

      Thank you Melanie!

      I’m pretty sure comparison is a flaming arrow zinging through the cosmos on a regular basis toward every soul. It’s just a matter of having the faith-shield wet and wielded so it doesn’t penetrate our hearts, right?

      Glad you are walking this road too. 🙂

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